If healing feels too much or the idea of doing “the work” feels impossibly heavy, you’re not alone. Healing is hard. It doesn’t often feel convenient or comfortable, and it rarely shows up with clear instructions or perfect timing.

But here’s what I’ve learned, both personally and professionally: healing may never feel easier than it does right now.

That’s not to say it feels easy now. It probably doesn’t. But we often carry the myth that there will be some future version of ourselves who will feel more ready, less scared, more equipped. And that future version only becomes real when we decide to show up for ourselves in the present.

This doesn’t mean throwing yourself into deep excavation work. Sometimes the most powerful healing comes from the softest places- choosing to treat yourself with compassion, to rest when you're tired, to ask for help before you're in crisis. Sometimes it looks like saying, “This hurts, and I’m going to be kind to myself anyway.”

Many people avoid healing because the pain they know feels safer than the unknown. But staying in suffering simply because it’s familiar doesn’t make it any less painful. It just makes it predictable.

So here’s an alternative: what’s one small, doable risk you could take today that leans toward connection with yourself?

Could you…

• Make a therapy appointment?
• Try a grounding practice?
• Speak more gently to your body?
• Set a boundary that’s long overdue?
• Ask a friend for support?
• Refill a prescription?
• Take a break when your body feels tired?

Healing isn't about doing it all at once. It's about consistently choosing small moments of care over disconnection.

You may never feel perfectly ready. But you are already worthy of healing. And every tiny choice you make in that direction matters.

Thank you for letting me see you,